Monday 2 April 2007

Closing thoughts

I have fast frowarded to 2025. I'm 60 in a few weeks and saved 24 yeaas! A lot has happened since writing out my story here in Blog format. Yes, I still love the Lord and I still love my hubby, Niall. Looking back I can say that when I became a true Bible believing Christian my lofe moved very wuickly, and in truth, it hasn't slowed down at all. I love the Bibnle as much as I ever have and have bought and given out thousands to people. I think it's what God want me to do. I have been asked many times to go to women's metings and different churches and talk to women there about how I became a christian. This story you are reading? I condensed it into about a two page story adn over the years had the oppertunity to have it translated into different languages and put them into the same format as this. I stayed in Dundalk Baptist Church for 10 years and I also went to the Baptist College part time for 5 years. Niall went full time for 3 years and through a placement he was put on we ended up going to Cavan Baptist Church and eventually joiing that church, which in turn led us to move to a small town in Co. Cavan called Belturbet to help start up a new church there. The church, Belturbet Baptist Church constituted three years ago adn Niall along with two other men were called to be elders there. We're very, very happy here and are convinced it's right where God wants us. Now for the bad news... For many years life with our son was what I would call ideal. He was a lovely wee fella and we adored him. still do! Over the years we continued to allow his grandmother to have access to him. When he truned 16 he went to a college in Newry to study A Level Art and Design. because of this we encouraged him to spend one night a week with his grandmother. We had been encouraging him to stretch and grow. Niall taught him to drive. He was out and about on his bike for longer and longer cycles. Things like that and we thought it would be good for him to spend regular time with his grandmother and we thought it would be good for her. I'm sitting looking a the screen on my lap top wondering how to put into words, even part of the horror that followed that awful choice we made... He met a girl in college. You know, first love! Bad influence. Both she and granny started to persuade Sean that he should live with his granny so they could spend more time together. Within a few short months our lovely lad became less and less lovely and we just couldn't figure out why. It all ended with granny taking him from the family home into Northern Ireland and within weeks all our lives were turned upside down. Becausse Niall had adopted Sean and Sean's grandmother were no longer legally so, the technical term for what happened was the international abduction of a minor. In a shockingly short time Sean had been turned against us. His granddmother persuaded him to change his name to hers. She went into his college, isisted they take our names off as next of kin and put her name in our place??????? He dropped all his friends. He dropped all his sports (he had a beautiful sailing boat that was left in the sailing club unused, stopped swimming, powerkiting and javlin, dropped all church activities and lost his faith, lost contact with his familly down south and turned his back on everything he once knew. Sadly he replaced all this love and wholesome living with everything that was the opposite. There is a term for what has happened. It's called Parent Alienation. Normally its when one parent turns their child against the other parent. In this case Granny tirned Sean against his mum and dad. It was a very dark time for me. Some pretty terrible things happened and it seemed like every week brought with it another terrible blow. You know, there were some great times in my life and some tough times. Loosing Dave was very tough. Loosing Sean's father was awful. But nothing could compare to loosing my son. Not just physically, but seeing him being lost. Seeing him being changed. Seeing somebody who should have loved him and protected and cherished him in effect say, "There's nothing about you that's acceptable. Not your name, not your faith, not your family, not your sports, not your education, nothing, and then deconstruct him. A different kind of identity theft. For some weeks I couldn't read the Bibe. Every time I tried I just cried and cried. Every time I tried to pray I just cried and cried. I couldn't cook for three months and I couldn't do my weekly family shopping for a year. I became concerned about not being able to pray adn read the Bible and then I remembered that I was ok. God had me. ALl the times of grief and loss and tears and yes, deep mourning God was right there with me. Slowly I was able to pick myself up enough to pray adn be comforted by Him through reading His Word. Needless to say, Niall was greatly affected too. I can't tell you just how well those two got along. He was and is a great dad and everybody was astounded by how easy and how quickly Sean had been turned against both of us.We both went to great efforts to lovinglly adn gently reach out to Sean. No heavyhandedness. Lovingly adn gently we tried to draw him back. We tried to reach him but every-single-time we reached out to him it had the opposite effect. He never came back home to us. There has been contact over the years but as soon as we started to get close his grandmother would hear of it and stirr up trouble again... But there has been damage done and a hardness has set in. It's been ten hard years. theres been a lot of praying, soul searching, fasting, turning to friends and a lot of tears. God hasn't answered those prayers, and time and again He brought me back to the truths in the book of Job, just like He did when I met little Lacey in America. Sometimes God allows very hard things in our lives. We can't see why. We don't understand why. But we are assured that there are very good reasons and God is doing what he promises; He is working out all things for our good and His Glory. You know, theres knowing that truth and theres living it. Like Job said, "My ears have heard of You but now I have seen You with my own eyes." Job, through no fault of his own, lost his 10 children, his wealth adn livelyhood, his reputation and his good health. At the end of whis appaling tryal he was able to see, understand and love God more than he did before these dreadful things happened to him. ... I'm currently updating this and so theres more to come... So that’s it. There have been a lot of other things happening to me but I would never get it all down on paper! My last word is this; God is really here. What I am experiencing is not some sort of wishy-washy, vague belief that there is something out there. God, through the Holy Spirit, is in me. He is moving me, daily, to change. I have never felt so fulfilled. I have never experienced such peace and, on the other hand, such excitement. Every day I am glad to be alive. But most of all, I have never felt so loved with such a love. Miracles have become commonplace in my life!

Now, eleven years later I am very happy to add to this story and say that I am as happy now as I was back then when I was first converted. I still love God and have a daily relationship with Him. I still love my husband Niall, even more than I did when we were first married, God is helping me rear Sean and he is a good wee boy.
Since my salvation eleven years ago, God has saved my mum, dad, step mum.

1 comment:

Jeannette said...

Hello Ruth,
I just read through your testimony. I started at the top and read continuously to here. I appreciate your being discreet and yet fully confessional..you have shared vulnerably and with grace. I recognize who you invited into your life! Thank you!